xuan's 100 truths

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001. Real Name : HO XUAN HUI
002. Nickname(s): XUAN, SOPHIA
003 Age : :)
004. Horoscope : -
005. Male or Female : Female
006. Elementary : WESLEY Kindergarten
007. Middle School : S.J.K (c) UNION, JALAN DAVIDSON
008. High School : SMK CONFUCIAN
009. College School : SEGI University College
010. Hair colour : Black
011. Long or Short : Long
012. Loud or Quiet : depends on my mood
013. Sweats or Jeans : Jeans
014. Phone or Camera : Both
015. Health Freak : X
016. Drink or Smoke : X
017. Do you have a crush on someone : O
018. Eat or Drink : Eat & DRINK
019. Piercings : O
020. Tattoos : X
021. Social or Anti-Social : Social
022. Righty or lefty : Righty
023. First piercing : standard 2
024. First relationship : O
025. First Best Friend : YEOH CHIEN WEI 
026. First Award : primary school std 3 best academy awrd
027. First Kiss : O
028. First Pet : Hamster
029. First Big Vacation : China
030. First Love at first sight : Not sure
031. First Big Birthday : Std 6
032. First Surgery : X
033. First sport you joined : badminton


This or That
034. Orange or Apple juice : Orange juice
035. Rock or Rap : Rap 
036. Country or Screamo : Country
037. NSYNC or Backstreet boys : X
038. Britney spears or Christina Aguilera : X
039. Night or Day : Night
040. Sun or Moon : Sun
041. TV or Internet : Internet 
042. Playstation or xbox : X
043. Kiss or hug : Hug
044. Iguana or turtle : Turtle
045. Spider or bee : X
046. Fall or spring : Both
047. Limewire or iTunes : X
048. Soccer or baseball : X

Currently
049. watching nba game : X
050. Drinking : water
051. Excitement level : 3/10.
052. I’m about to : have my lunch
053. Listening to : drilling sound from neighbourhood
054. Plan for today : cari kawan at night
055. Waiting for : time to pass
056. Energy Level : 7/10
057. Thinking of someone : O

Future dreams
058. Want kids? : O
059. Want to get married? : O
060. When? : 24
061. How many kids do you want : 2
062. Any name on the mind : X
063. What did you want to be when you were little : Doctor
064. Careers in mind : not sure
065. Mellow future or wild : Mellow
066. Something you would never try : commit suicide
067. When do you want to die : Not so soon

Which is the better in the boy/girl you like (in the future)
068. Lips or Eyes : Eyes
069. Romantic or Funny? : Both
070. Shorter or Taller? : Taller 
071. Protective or Caring? : Both
072. Romantic or Spontaneous? : Romantic
073. Nice Stomach or Nice Arms? : doesn't matter
074. Sensitive or Loud? : both
075. Hook-up or Relationship? : Relationship
076. Trouble Maker or Hesitant? : X
077. Muscular or normal : Normal

Have you ever
078. Kissed a stranger : X
079. Broken a bone : X
080. Lost glasses or contacts : O
081. Ran away from home : X
082. Held a gun/knife for self defence : X
083. Killed somebody : X
084. Broken some one’s heart : O
085. Had your heart broken : O
086. Been arrested : X
087. Cried when someone died : O
088. Liked a friend more than a friend : O

Do you believe in
089. Yourself : Sometimes
090. Miracles : O
091. Love at first sight : O
092. Heaven : O
093. Santa Claus : X
094. Tooth Fairy : X
095. Kiss in the first date : O
096. Angels : O
097. Is there 1 person you want to be with right now? : O
098. Are you seriously happy with where you’re in life now? : 88/100
099. Do you believe in God? : O
100. Post as 100 truths and tag 10 people

Wisdom of the bible

Sometimes people might have doubts that the Holy Bible, being the most selling book in the world, was merely the collective wisdom of mankind. The book is so flawless written, conceived the wisdom beyond the human realm of thoughts; depicted over hundreds of, if not thousands of story that give different lessons to different people when they read it, was merely the coincidence of the intelligience of the intelligent.

I read one verse today which gave me a new version of understanding Bible. "For the foolishness of God is wiser than man's wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than man's strength". (1 Corinthians 1:25). To be continued...

爱不简单

记得有人告诉我：要喜欢上一个人不难。

想了很久，我赞同他所说的。很多时候，我们会很容易被美女或帅哥而吸引，然后很想和他有一种特别的近距离的关系。但是，也很常当梦想成真后，是恶梦的开始。为什么？

而一个对爱情没什么经验的我认为要喜欢上一个人不难，因为只要喜欢上他的优点就行了。当初，也是因为他的优点，而吸引到我们的。爱，不简单。要彼此相爱更不简单了。第一，因为我们很难找到一个真心爱你而你也会真心爱他的人。第二，因为爱的范围比起喜欢的范围增加的无数倍。

当爱上一个人，我们会爱上我们当初所被吸引优点，我们也会开始爱了解他。在了解的过程中，我们也慢慢学会原来爱一个人，我们也要以忍耐来接纳他的缺点。在经历狂风暴雨时，爱一个人更要在任何环境比任何人更爱他，扶持他。无论自己有多疲累，当为了保护，扶持，让对方感觉到安全感和肯定，我们都忘了我们自己的疲累。

很多时候，成为情侣或夫妻争吵的几率是比成为好朋友，‘死党’多得很。这是很矛盾的情况，但是很多时候是因为我们的另一半成为我们近距离的镜子。人有丑陋的一面，所以可说这片镜子是我们丑陋的镜子，所以当丑陋的部分被照到时，我们会生气，隐藏或是更近距离的照我们自己的丑陋。

但是，很奇怪的是，我们却常常照了这片镜子，我们会越来越爱上它。虽然我们会有争执，但是当久没有照这片镜子时，我们会想念。因为我们知道虽然这片镜子可照出我们的丑陋，但是我们的样子永远都会被这片镜子的爱而接纳，也因为被接纳而爱。当我们有修改我们的弱点时，这片镜子照出的是我们修补过的或改善的赞赏！

爱一个人不容易；更何况彼此相爱是不简单的。但是我相信若神成为我们彼此的爱，那。。接纳（爱）一个人的接受度不会比自己肉眼，感觉和脑袋来的难。

Difference between man and woman

A girl recently told me that: when a woman talks, what a man has to do is lending his pair of ears, paying attention and not necessary has to understand the content. I agreed on that, as women are desirous on getting men attention. And if a man is paying attention, it shows the man loves the woman. Difference between man and woman on this context is woman needs love and attention from man more than his understanding and consent. But to a man, he wants woman to understand him more than anything. (I think all guys out there will agree with me on this...) therefore, to all the men, love your woman and show your cares and attention. Don't ever dream of understanding a woman, as you will never do. To all the women, the only effective way to love your man is trying to understand them in all they do and support them in all ways. Hope this helps in managing a good relationship between man and woman.

习惯

上这堂课是我还蛮享受的。虽然有点累，但是是值得的。因为它刺激我要思考，然后思考上帝的话语怎样可以在我们的生活中显出。这是一堂有意义，有很大的得着的一堂课。因为他会使你参与，和要参与！让我分享我上课的得着和笔记！

有关课题：心态

人的心态是思考的习惯。

什么是习惯？ 习惯是不被注意的行为，思想，举动。

例如：请问你刷牙时是从左边开始刷起，或是右边开始刷？；当你穿裤时，是先穿左脚后右脚或是右脚后左脚？着一些是我们很难回答的问题，因为已经成为我们的习惯。

人若没有刻意地培养一个好习惯，是负面习惯的开始。

例如：

人若不培养刷牙的习惯，他会开始不刷牙。

当人不培养储蓄钱的习惯，他也不会要储蓄。

人不培养文雅的交谈，他会开始粗俗的交谈。

习惯很难被改，但是可以被其他东西取代。我们当建立一个好习惯/心态来代替旧的习惯。

若一个人生气时，坏习惯为-抽烟可让他冷静，他应当建立一个好习惯来代替抽烟的习惯。这才可说是实际的方法。而习惯的改良也当然需要籍着上帝的力量来改变他而不止建立一个好习惯来代替坏习惯。

习惯也表露出我们人的自我中心心态。 

很多时候我们对一些人或事情习惯给予评价为：满足得到我的，是好的；满足不到我的是不好的。可见一些人经常换谈恋爱对象。问题的出现也被说为他有什么不好，我们适应不来等。。很多时候，也许我们忘了考察我们自己的自我中心心态出现了问题。当我们认为对方应该要满足我某方面的要求，而对方做不到时，我们会开始指向对方的问题出现。因为我们有强烈的自我中心，而对方给你的感觉是-YOU FAIL ME.

很多时候我们忽略了是否问题出现于我的自我中心心态太强了？

我们当培养正确的心态，正面的观念。在发生每一样事情时，都应该想想有正面的回应。因为人的心态是思考的习惯！

而我呢。。。真的还在学习着。

上了这一课，真的让我会有想要改变负面的心态。会尝试想想应该改变的东西，然后采取行动！

灵命Senior

很谢谢你仔细地为我解答这几个我存有疑惑的问题。每个人在信仰的得着都不一样， 但我相信回到圣经的教导准没错。。你在灵命的成长比较senior, 以后可以多请教你。。

上帝在我们身上有他的计划

1.当一个基督徒诚心恳切地求一件事情时，受试炼的机会会提高吗？

2.神可以籍着人的祈求来考验人的信心吗？

3.当所求的不被应许，人还会相信神吗？

 

1. 身为基督徒当知道一切是在于上帝的计划里。当人诚心求一件事情时，他会不断追求上帝的话语。当人与神亲近时，恶者都会尝试把人跟神分开。所以当再求一件事情时，试炼也会提高。很多时候，当一个人面对试炼时，试探也会同时出现。

          就如当一个人为了考更好的成绩，他不断的努力读书。同学们看见了便告诉他说读书那么幸苦，也不是为了考试。同学们经常在考试时作弊，也未曾被老师发现而考取好成绩。这时，这位同学的试炼受摇动，他也在下个学期的考试不读书，选择了作弊。这就是试炼中的试探。我们应该靠着神的恩典和能力胜过试探。当我们可以在试炼过关时，我们会在属灵上，个人道德上被提高一层。

2. 神可以籍着人的祈求来考验人的信心。圣经里所有的是亚伯拉罕的信心。

上帝对亚伯拉罕的承诺是把亚伯拉罕一家成为很大的下一代。上帝说以撒会成为下一代的父亲。亚伯拉罕相信上帝会守承诺。然而，上帝却吩咐亚伯拉罕烧以撒成为给上帝的献祭。身为爸爸，亚伯拉罕不想失去以撒。但是，他却对上帝有信心也对上帝的承诺有信心。最后，以撒没有死，然而这是上帝对亚伯拉罕信心的考验。

3. 当所求的不被应许，人还会相信神吗？

在这件事情上，我们若因着所求的不被应许，而选择不相信神，这就可看见我们与神的关系是存着利用的关系。人会因为而选择不相信上帝因为上帝已经没有利用价值了。 当我们利用上帝来为我们达成我们所想得到的东西，而不被满足时，我们开始怀疑上帝有听我的祷告吗？或我们会开始选择不相信上帝。 当人寻求上帝的心是存着利用的关系时，其实他相信上帝跟相信别的宗教信仰是没什么分别。很常，人会以拜偶像的心态来敬拜上帝；这其实是一个代替而已。若因为他不应许我的祈求，我们选择不信上帝时，这可见我们在选上帝。

              身为基督徒，我们可能忘了最基本的原理，那是‘上帝拣选我们每一个人’，‘上帝在我们身上有他的计划’。

当上帝不应许我们的祈求时，我们也许会不知道上帝的计划是什么。我们祈求，因为我们觉得它对我们有好处。但是，这些都是在于我们的角度所看到的。当上帝不应许一些东西时，他一定有他的计划。他是所可以看到完整的过程和结果比起我们只可以预算将来对我们的好处。

我们当常常记着上帝是无所不在，祂时时刻刻都在你心中。

当我们为事情上的祈求，我们可以这样祷告：‘愿神的旨意行在地上如同行在天上’

 

Self-confidence, a relative relationship...

To determine whether a person is either self-confident or arrogant, his confidence level has to be compared relatively with the person or a group of people whom he demonstrates. Consider an analogy, a red spot on white paper is so obvious compare to a red spot on a black paper. I can conclude that, the clarity of the red spot is depends on the relative color surrounded it.

To give an easier understanding, if Mr A has a higher education level compared to Mr B, Mr A will tend to get too big for his boots (over-confident) in front of Mr B. Conversely, Mr A will have less confidence in front of Mr B. This obvious corollary implies a relative relationship in between individuals based on their education background, age, family status, authority level, positions and so forth. If you are "too good" in front of those who are "not that good", be considerate and do not let them feel inferior. Otherwise, be humble when you felt you are relatively "not that good". You still can be proud of yourself, but that doesn't mean that you have to talk more... (Most often, people usually talk or express more to show that they are self-confident, rite??!!)

PS: The idea of having confidence on breakfast, water and sleeping is so new to me, good point..

Confidence

When we mention on confidence, many people may very directly reflect first to their self-confidence, then to their confidence on other things or person. Confidence is a trust or faith in a person or thing. I remember that i was reminded by my dad on confidence. Actually, in our daily life, we practise lots and lots of lessons on confidence.

The moment we wake up, we are having confidence on lots of things, such as having breakfast without doubting it is poison or not; Going for a bath without guessing the water is clean or not; sleeping on our bed every night without worrying on the stability of the bed. All these we practise our confidence daily.

Confidence can just develope through our past experience, decisions we made daily, etc. Thus, the basic self-confidence is needed to every person, but not over-confidence as the attitude of arrogance may easily let you fall in ways. It is a good reminder for us that we must have confidence on ourselves, at the same time we practice the attitude to humble ourselves.

Many times, i have confidence on myself. For sometimes, when i sat down and flash back on my actions or words, it may contain over-confidence or arrogance for the situation. Through these situations, i try to learn to be humble yet confidence whenever i talk or carry myself. May God change me and remind me whenever i'm going to act in that way.

Through cases, i know that i'm quite difficult to trust or to have confidence on people. But, for the people that i'm close with, i would have confidence on them on certain things that i think they might be very good in it. As for my partner, i have confidence on him from many aspects. One of it is his perseverance. His persistent determination is really what i admire. I know if he would catch up on something, he would not easily let it off; he would have the determination to strive for it. This is a good thing to learn. Ofcourse, by going all out, we must also learn to hand it in God's hand and trust Him.

Have confidence in God, practise our faith, and i'm sure God will bless us in His way

Lesson of faith

Still remember one of my favourite song in MIF ~"Little by little everyday, little by little everyway, My Jesus is changing me.." Learning the lesson of faith in God also as such, little by little, step by step. I often thought, if I humbly invite God once again to recapture my heart as His rightful throne, or earnestly pray for few days, if not go for a 3 days gospel camp, my life would change through a giant leap of faith. I was wrong as attending the class of "faith building" (sound like "team building" huh..) is not a block module or intensive lecture which you can graduate overnight. This is a lesson of life, and experiencing God in His way through devotion and chewing the words of God is daily "to do" thing, in order to draw one step closer to Him.. Every step counts..

Steering the hardship...

Ever since I took up MBA, I never had a day where i can flee from my tight learning schedules. In part beacuse of the 2 night classes per week, and in part because of my own daily routine of studying course materials and reading financial news. Sigh... I have to undergo a two-years tough period just like old days when I prepared for my SPM. In the interim, I am desperately in need of love and support to fuel my journey. Thanks to your unwavering love and cares, I can steer the hardship with hope and courage. This resembles a journey of life. Finding a life's partner that could support you along the way is who that we are looking for. I feel blissful as I have found mine. Certainly, I think this blog will always overflown with tenderness and my affection for you. (I couldn't believe I can be that sentimental at 5am early in the morning huh...)

A nice name!

I know you can have all the creativity and passion to give the blog a nice name and I believe, this is a place where sharing comes as the first order of the day. No matter this is an opened or closed blogspot, hopefully we can feel free to write anything. About us, about hope, ambition, spiritual gain, life value, moral lesson, or coffee talk... Have a grand opening of the blog with a little prayer: Lord, this blog is created to share about life, about wonderful experience, not just with Sophia alone, but with You. Hope this is a good conduit to speak up freely without echo (only talking to yourself will have echoes, haha..) and to exchange thoughts and inspirations. Amen.

Moments to share

As for the first post, i think this is a precious corner for S&S contributors to share. Sharing about their lifes, experiences, perspectives, and every moments of theirs.

The time to spare in this precious corner, to have the moments to share.